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For your consideration:
"Don't Rant and Rave on Wednesdays!: The Children's Anger-Control Book" by Adolph Moser, David Melton, Nancy R. Thatch


"Hot Stuff to Help Kids Chill Out: The Anger Management Book" by Jerry Wilde


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Ways to defeat the epidemic of youth violence -- kids managing anger, kids handling conflicts, violence shaping their later lives, help for kids, parents, teachers, and caregivers, signs to look for, places to get help:

From the official news magazine of the American Academy of Pediatrics reports that a 3-year National Television Violence Study not only found that nearly two-thirds of all TV programming contains violence, and children's shows contain the most violence, but also that portrayals of violence are usually glamorized and perpetrators often go unpunished.  That's something for parents to think about before they put their kids in front of the TV -- more violence than adults' shows!!  That's scary.

One in 12 high schoolers is threatened or injured with a weapon each year -- if you're between the ages of 12 and 24, you gave the highest risk of being victimized.  The American Psychological Association offers an outstanding youth anti-violence guide with help recognizing violence warning signs, what to do, how to deal with anger and more.

The APA's brochure, "Raising Children to Resist Violence: What You Can Do", is designed to help parents work within the family, school and community to prevent and reduce youth violence. Violent or aggressive behavior is often learned early in life, and this brochure  includes helpful suggestions, warning signs, and more for parents who want to take steps to reduce or minimize violence.

The National Funding Collaborative on Violence Prevention was developed to address the effects of escalating violence on the lives of children and their families.  Their goal is to raise public awareness and help empower citizens to tackle violence in their communities.

Psych-Net Mental Health's pages on childhood anger discuss the effects of anger on children and how we are creating angry children.  

Parents and students
who want to help reduce or prevent violence in schools will find helpful advice and resources at the National Crime Prevention Councilís site. Kids need help with managing anger and conflicts, and parents will find signs to look for, plus resources so they can take action.  Any constructive action will help.

YouthNoise invites you to be part of the youth violence solution.  Working to boost awareness, reduce youth violence in America, and help teens stay our of trouble, YouthNoise offers opportunities to volunteer, impact public policy, raise or donate funds, and help promote understanding between teens of different racial and ethnic backgrounds.

Amidst all the rudeness and aggressive behavior exhibited by young people today, one author and consultant, Dr. Michele Borba offers parents six ways to help their kids handle anger.  One lesson still rings true: parents really do make a difference.

Also, actions speak louder than words! Parental role modeling can help teach children to be caring and kind.
  Some studies show that children can show signs of empathy and concern from a very early age.  In other words, parents have the power to nurture, guide, show and instill -- to teach kindness, responsibility, and gentleness in a rude and angry world.

Athletes have been our popular heroes. 
But athletes are losing ground because of greed, scandals, rudeness, lawlessness, and some fans, coaches and parents aren't far behind.  "Because I have the opportunity and responsibility to make a difference in others, I commit to the following Code for Living..."  Athletes for a Better World is all about positive mentoring for young persons to help change the perception and reality of sports.  

Connect for Kids
is an award-winning project that helps adults make their communities better places for families and children.  It's a place for parents, grandparents, educators, policymakers and others who want to become more active citizens -- from volunteering to voting with kids in mind.  From prevention and intervention, to an incredible list of organizations and reports, this phenomenal site helps grownups help future grownups.

Circumstances like seeing excessive fighting at home, seeing parents lose their tempers easily, and being exposed to violence in the neighborhood are harmful to children -- witnessing violence in youth can lead to violence in adulthood.

Studies show that kids' TV shows contain about 20 violent acts each hour.
Children who watch violence on television behave differently and are negatively impacted in ways that shape their later lives. A steady diet of violence has many repercussions but parents can maintain some control.

Children exposed to TV violence tend to show a higher level of aggression as teenagers, and are more likely to be arrested and prosecuted for criminal acts as adults.  The APA's brochure covers what children learn, what the research shows, and what parents can do about violence on television.

With sensory overload of violent images, lyrics, news stories and games, an increase in aggression and anger in children is a growing trend, and foster children are amongst the highest at risk. Dr. Michele Borba offers 6 ways to help foster kids express anger constructively.

What's "the helicopter parent?"  Or "the emotionally absent parent?"  It's the shortest distance between surly teens and parents who react badly to them.  Experts say empathy is better than anger.

Youth violence is learned and practiced behavior and a generation of Americans is at risk. Here's a call to arms for us all to make a legislative and social commitment to the reduction of aggression and violence in society. Everyone who comes in contact with youth has the potential to mitigate a child's involvement with violent behavior.  Every institution that touches a child can teach and demonstrate peaceful, effective coping alternatives to violence.

Kids need a future, not funerals...the National PTA Violence Prevention Kit provides parents and communities with the resources to organize and create community environments that help keep our children safe.  

Teen Advice Online has a wealth of articles written by TAO counselors, a team of volunteers from a vast array of countries, who cover all sorts of life experiences and relationships, including depression and disorders -- ages 13 and beyond, volunteers are devoted to helping teens sort things out.

According to the US Dept. of Justice, the participation of youth in positive activities and the formation of close attachments to family, school, and community have been linked to positive outcomes in youth at risk and youth violence research studies. For communities that want to prevent and control youth violence, the Blueprints for Violence Prevention Initiative of the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention provides information on a broad array of  violence prevention and intervention programs that have been proven to be effective in reducing adolescent violent crime, aggressive delinquency, aggression, and conduct disorders.

SADD, Students Against Destructive Decisions, is all about helping students resist the consequences of destructive decisions.  Their Contract for Life, with a young person and a parent or caring adult, together with school- and community-wide activities and campaigns, help young people handle destructive attitudes and behaviors such as violence, underage drinking, substance abuse, impaired driving and suicide.

Amazing Kids celebrates the achievements of kids -- a non-profit educational organization dedicated to helping kids realize their amazing potential, uncover and nurture their unique talents and inspire them to pursue excellence.

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