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Life etiquette guidelines, business and career etiquette advice, dining and cocktail etiquette, phone interview etiquette, travel and airline etiquette, mind your manners at the gym, disability etiquette, interfaith etiquette and etiquette for funerals and wakes:

It didn't come from stone tablets, but these Ten Commandments for Good Manners should be written in stone...rules to live by include "Thou Shalt Not Be Arrogant and Loud" and "Thou Shalt Not Embarrass Others." This etiquette primer includes being true to yourself, and being a calming, happy influence in stressful situations.

Someone said it takes 15 seconds to make a first impression and the rest of your life to undo it.  Puts the pressure on doesn't it?  Sure there's a courtesy crisis.  The Kansas City Business Journal offers the "Rule of 12" for projecting a positive first impression: the first 12 words you speak, the first 12 steps you take, and more valuable pointers.

People tend to equate a lack of etiquette with a lack of care and self-control necessary to be good at what you do.  Etiquette is about presenting yourself with the kind of polish that shows you can be taken seriously.  So here's an insightful, comprehensive business etiquette plan that's must reading for giving yourself the etiquette advantage.

Yikes, so who's not afraid of public speaking. But wait... when you think about it, the rules for better discourse can actually apply to conversations in almost any social situation. So sprinkle an interview or other occasion or gathering with these helpful suggestions. 

In any economy, good manners might make the difference in a job interview or business encounter. While your pulse is racing and your palms perspire, 
remembering the basics of how to do a good interview can tip the scales in your favor. Check out these pointers for job interview etiquette.

Here are even more ways to mind your manners during your job interview - commonsense pointers on winning over your interviewer.

Value of a firm handshake? Priceless, at a job interview. And these days, you need all the career and job interview advice you can get including interview etiquette and manners that can make you a standout. A firm handshake helps make a good first impression, and strength, duration, eye contact and the quality of your handshake can tell others a lot about you.

Are you a dead fish? In the business world, knowing how to shake hands can set you apart from the competition and help convey confidence. University of Iowa business professor Greg Stewart confirms that a firm, solid handshake is an important part of a successful job interview, but a dead fish can end the interview before it even begins. 

It is generally considered rude to reject a handshake, regardless of culture. Here are a few simple tips should help you avoid  "handshake hell."

It's said that Dale Carnegie stated that "85% of our success comes from possessing people skills", so it seems there's really a lot a stake for brushing up on good manners. And these days, when rudeness can overtake just about any social situation, maybe these 6 rules for communicating with others with some tact and 
displomacy can help avoid a rude confrontation

More on the gentle art of handling an introduction -- after all, if you're confident in your people skills and the proper way to demonstrate respect when you introduce someone, you'll establish a positive presence and leave a memorable impression.

Good Housekeeping’s Peggy Post accepts etiquette questions online and selected questions may be answered in her Etiquette for Today column. "Rude" is a four-letter word and here are some effective comebacks for the ill-mannered.

Good table manners can make a favorable impression in business situations and are key to professional success.  Everything counts: napkin use, ordering, use of silverware, the way you chew, even what you do when you're finished eating.  Here's a good starting point - Fordham University's helpful dining etiquette primer that is a must read for eating with good manners and the right utensils.

Nervous about being at a dinner table and trying to impress the boss, a new romance, or your significant other's family?  You can be able to get through it with poise and grace if you know the secrets and pitfalls of American table manners.

Job interviews are stressful enough, and now you're going to be interviewed over lunch or dinner. Be calm. Here are some tips on interview etiquette 
so you can be confident and graceful - even with a knife and fork.

Put your best fork forward.
  Actually make that your knife, fork and spoon....these tips on utensil etiquette help you make sense of utensil do's and don'ts. 

Chivalry isn't dead and neither are good manners. Welcome to this little "refresher" on tipping, talking and tableware - 25 etiquette tips to remind us of proper etiquette in everyday life as well as special occasions.

What can you eat with your fingers
besides cookies and corn-on-the-cob?  CuisineNet has the answers.

What's the proper way to eat cherries, bananas, berries? Finger food, maybe yes, maybe no...this site covers the potentially embarrassing and doing the right thing with finger food.

Burping and slurping
, touching your hair and cleaning your teeth at the table -- just 4 of the 20 etiquette situations offered for international students in table manners at a typical evening meal. Actually, Whether we're visitors or we live in the USA, we could all use a little brushing up on the basics.

When do you serve from the left, and when do you serve from the right?  And what's the rule of thumb for serving order?  A few pointers on serving etiquette to help you become an instant whiz.

For a nostalgic look at old-time good table manners, here are the time proven basics for good manners at the table.

How do you deal with the etiquette of intercultural menu planning?  Check these help tips and taboo table offerings when culturally diverse dietary restrictions apply when serving Jews, Muslims, Hindus and others.

Got grizzle?  Or what do you do with that fish bone in your mouth? Or that olive pit?  And how do we please pass the salt?  Oh, the pitfalls...Once again, it's CuisineNet to the rescue.

The art of toasting is a rare one, indeed. But, if you're scheduled to be on the spot and make a toast, here's a list of top eight tips for making a memorable toast from the student newspaper of the Harvard Business School Community.

Sure, toasts aren't part of our daily lives, but here are helpful techniques for how to make a toast speech, with good suggestions, tips and even warnings. Cheers!

Making multi-cultural toasts?  Here's some awesome, invaluable help with saying "cheers" in different countries.

If the words "black tie" cause panic in your otherwise rational brain, or panic sets in with someone you know, relax. The Black Tie Guide offers a primer on black tie etiquette and formal dress codes - so no excuse for faux pas or transgressions.

You, too, can be cool as a cucumber and handle canapes and cocktails with panache at any cocktail party.  Just mastering a few simple etiquette rules assure you won't feel like a dork with the wrong fork.

No compilation of good table manners and dining etiquette would be complete without a history of eating utensils in the West -- a brief timeline from CuisineNet Diner's Digest.  May I have a split spoon please?

“Good manners will get you where you want to go faster than a speeding BMW,” says etiquette educator Dorothea Johnson. Etiquette books and seminars, protocol consultants, educational institutions are beginning to incorporate social graces for students of all ages.  Be sure to take the "regal or rude" test, too.

Job interviews by phone can be terrifying to some job seekers, so it's important to prepare for a successful phone contact.  Here are some phone interview etiquette tips that can help when you're applying for a job..

To gift or not to gift -- the office gift-giving dilemma. Office or business gift etiquette has many different facets - gifts of a personal nature, gag gifts, homemade gifts, boss gifts, co-worker gifts, and international gift giving protocols figure into the mix. Here are tips to sort it all out and make the impression you really want to give.  

You may think you have a great office gift idea, but think again. Some business related gifts can be really bad office gift etiquette. Here are some tips to avoid inappropriate or controversial gifts in a work environment or business context.

At the gym,
much like any other venue -- highways, movies, stores, workplaces -- you're bound to bump into the etiquette-challenged.  There are grunters, slammers, equipment hogs, cellphone abusers, and other offenders.  The Washington Running Report has come up with some gym etiquette for those working out in a shared space - regardless of the size of the fitness facility.

More gym etiquette
discussing sweat, B.O., mirrors, music, cardio times, grunting (our personal favorite), dropping weights (another favorite), and more right here.

Holy treadmills,
here's more on how to behave well at the gym, get along with fellow exercisers, and enjoy your workouts.

Are you a frequent traveler?  Make your reservation for The Etiquette of Seat Backs and Elbow Room.

Here are more essentials of airport etiquette with tips on packing, carry-ons, and airport security etiquette for those who are tired of flying the unfriendly skies.

Airlines, airports, airplanes can be a horrendous experience.  But The Motley Fool says some common courtesy and air travel etiquette to change our attitudes could make being at high altitudes more enjoyable.   

If you plan to travel for business (or pleasure), Executive Planet offers a wealth of verbal and non-verbal travel etiquette tips to help you get through your visit to any one of 49 countries, and that includes respectful forms of address, business attire, and tuning in to cultural psyches and nuances. 

Quick, name a country you're traveling to - chances are once you see this awesome tipping etiquette guide, you'll express your appreciation properly for services received on any continent. From Conde Nast Traveler Magazine, here's their Etiquette 101: Tipping Guide.

While traveling, it's often more important than ever to tip people who provide services for you. But the most common tipping blunder that travelers make is not to tip at all. We can put a stop to that with thie guide to tipping etiquette for travelers from MSNBC. 

The Americans with Disabilities Act was signed into law in July 1990 and with it came a mandate to end discrimination against individuals with disabilities. While the law protects people with disabilities, it does not automatically educate the public on the correct way to interact with people with disabilities. What would you do when faced with someone with a paralyzed or missing right arm? The Huffington Post has an insightful, informative piece on disability etiquette featuring sound disability etiquette advice for us all.

In order to enhance opportunities for persons with disabilities, the City of San Antonio, Texas Department of Public Works Disability Access Office has prepared a 2011 Disability Etiquette Handbook.

Disability etiquette  means not using words with negative connotations. As our society is learning to welcome people with disabilities into mainstream as productive individuals, you can be a part of that process and that includes using more affirmative, more positive words with dignity. To more respectfully communicate with people with disabilities, here's a Disability Etiquette guide with a Glossary of Acceptable Terms.

Respect for and friendly knowledge about your neighbor's faith expressions and beliefs help prevent tension and boost harmonious community life:  this interfaith etiquette guide from Better Homes and Gardens, Manners of Faith, is an insightful piece on religious ceremony etiquette - especially for kids. 

In a world filled with cultural diversity, cross-cultural funeral rites still embrace some universals that have remained consistent in funeral services: for instance, announcing the death, care of the deceased, a method of disposition, a possible ceremony or ritual, and some form of memorialization. Here are inter-faith and cross-cultural funeral customs.

When planning or attending a wake or funeral service for different religions, funeral etiquette can help overcome some of the awkwardness when not 
knowing how to act or what to say in on an uncomfortable topic. These guidelines may help with expressions of sympathy.

When mourning the death of someone and wishing to honor their memory, the wake, funeral or other mourning ritual may be unfamiliar, but involves certain rules of funeral etiquette.  From sending condolences and what to say, to allowing children to express their grief at a funeral, these suggestions may be of some help to you.

The Emily Post Institute offers answers to bereavement questions for times of loss and grieving.

These funeral etiquette guidelines cover Christian and Jewish funerals and traditions to help you know what to expect and what to do. 

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