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For your consideration:
"365 Manners Kids Should Know: Games, Activities, and Other Fun Ways
 to Help Children Learn Etiquette"
by Sheryl Eberly




Also for your consideration:
and the Caterpillars"
by Sharleen Collicott


"Manners of the Heart at Home"  by Jill Rigby -- Everyday courtesies, communication skills, and table manners for children





Kids' etiquette, children's good manners at the table, on the telephone, polite kids, teaching respect, financial etiquette, good sportsmanship, help for parents and teachers from the experts, and a surprise from a famous 16-year-old schoolboy:

Actions really do speak louder than words.  Parental role modeling helps teach children to be caring and kind.
  In fact, some studies show that children can show signs of empathy and concern from a very early age.  In other words, parents have the power to nurture, guide, show and instill -- to teach kindness, responsibility, and gentleness in a rude and violent world.

Social skills are important in all aspects of your child’s life, from the playground to the classroom to the workplace. Social skills help others feel comfortable with us and help us make friends. Relationship-building skills help us resolve conflicts in a healthy way. You can help your child learn social skills they will use for the rest of their lives -- tips from the Yuma Sun.

It's agreed: manners need to be taught.  And teaching your children manners gives them "lifelong survival skills" according to one etiquette expert.  In fact, kids who don't have social graces are likely to have a more difficult time with friends, family and teachers.  Today's Parent offers helpful advice for parents who want their kids to have some degree of civility.

Between the ages of 2 and 5, your preschool child is most receptive to learning the rules of polite conduct. 
In other words, development of decorum. "When children are very young," says Linda Altman, a Georgia-based counselor and educator, "they want to do anything you ask. Grab the opportunity to teach appropriate behavior." In "Thank Goodness for Manners" from Scholastic parents will find some good suggestions

When children are polite, kind and honest, they develop character -- and also make their parents look good! Here are some tips for raising polite, mannered children who can grow into polite, mannered adults.

If providing a supportive and affirming role is a parent's essential task for life, how can we best accomplish it with our youngsters and adult children?
The Santa Cruz Sentinel points out how you can affirm your children, give them self-esteem, and convey to them that they are good, worthy people by validating them in words and actions.

Politeness counts!
  And according to FamilyFun, teaching our children about respect is the most important and enduring job a parent will ever have.  Here are some common-sense ways to teach the golden rule and raise a respectful child with good manners.

Ladies Home Journal has some creative ideas to help out parents when "other kids are rude." There are pointers on how to combat anger and keep embarrassment to a minimum. (Note: this site has popup Ads.)

Good manners are important skills children should develop when they are young.  After all, manners are beneficial for the rest of their lives.  So do your kids have good telephone etiquette? Instead of giving your child a toy telephone to play with, use it to teach good telephone skills from the start. And remember, correct telephone etiquette goes beyond showing good manners, it can also help keep a child safe. Get helpful tips here from LHJ. (Note: this site has popup Ads.)

If your child has trouble socializing with other kids, Scholastic's child expert Peggy Schmidt can help with practical advice on acting out appropriate behavior, conflict resolution, how to teach your child to listen, to apologize, to be successful in social interactions with their peers.

For children to be successful in life, they need to have social skills as well as academic skills. And if you help young children learn polite and caring behavior, they will continue to use good manners and become more socially aware as they get older. Here's how you can make learning manners fun!

Does your child use bad manners at home? Would you be embarrassed if those bad manners surfaced in public? You have to decide that bad manners will not be tolerated in the house. That advice comes from an expert!

"Teaching a child what behavior is expected of them is a daily process."  And good manners are key to your child's social success.  Some tips on teaching good manners from the Family Corner include teach, don't reprimand, correct privately, accept mistakes, and expect good manners.  

Here are the 10 Commandments of good table manners to help your child develop and practice good manners at the table -- anywhere.

Parents who want to help their children learn proper etiquette will find a helpful primer on teaching kids how to be polite.  The parenting tips from Dr. Marilyn Heins at Parent Kids Right include restaurant manners, telephone manners and writing manners.

"Bewildered" has 2 boys, ages 9 & 10, and wants to raise them with decent table manners.  Dr. Dave and Dr. Dee to the rescue with 12 Basic Table Manners for Kids.

Catering to your child is not respect. By saying "yes" to a child's requests for things, the end result is detrimental to them. Want your child to grow into a thoughtful, loving, creative person who will possess resilience, generosity, curiosity, consideration for others, respect and perserverance?  This article about the discipline crisis among Generation X parents is a must-read if you care about the emotional health of your child.

The parent who doesn't make courtesy a priority, and who caters and enables, helps a child develop bad manners.  Got a spoiled kid?  No?  Not yours?  Take this test and find out!

The Emily Post Institute offers great advice for parents: teaching kids table manners, kids and telephone manners, teaching kids not to interrupt, please and thank you, and other helpful pointers.

When you teach children to be respectful, you instill good values like kindness and consideration which are the building blocks of good manners.  Sesame Workshop's "Do Manners Matter?" is a helpful column on raising polite kids, teaching them manners and helping them truly value politeness.

For kids to develop values that essential to being courteous, they need to see those same qualities in people whom they respect -- parents have the power to exert powerful positive influences.  Here are three keys to parenting a polite child.

When you're eating out with the kids, here are some pointers on restaurant behavior. But this advice is first and foremost:  "If you are casual about mealtime manners at home, don’t expect your children to miraculously develop table manners because you happen to be sitting in a restaurant. Practice good manners at home for every meal, and your children will be prepared when you eat out."

Education World
offers a site packed with information for teachers who want to teach students respect and good manners.  Included are resources for teaching through stories, poems, songs, games, biographies, lesson plans and activities.  This one's an A+.

Emily was crying by the time the softball game ended. But only because her dad yelled at her — in front of all her teammates — for missing the fly ball that could have saved the game. Emily is just 8 years old.  So very, very sad. Parents, please, take a minute and click here for some tips on good sportsmanship for kids.

"You don't win silver. You lose gold." That's the sour message of a sneaker advertisement that aired on TV during the Atlanta Olympics. How can you instill in your child the importance of good sportsmanship and offset the "win at all costs" philosophy? Please look at this parent-friendly link.

Professional players and coaches might not always display the same good attitudes toward other team members or sense of fair play that you expect from your own child. Instances of professional players cheating at sports—such as using drugs to enhance their performance—are often well-publicized. Your child may even witness his or her sports idol throwing a tantrum, starting a fight, or bad-mouthing the referee. What's a parent to do? Find out here.

Here are five helpful strategies for raising polite children in impolite times -- for helping to guide children down the path of graciousness, without enrolling them in etiquette class from the Partnership for Learning.

Handling children's anger can be puzzling, draining, and distressing for adults. In fact, one of the major problems in dealing with anger in children is the angry feelings that are often stirred up in us. Here are some helpful suggestions on dealing with an angry child and how to teach them acceptable ways of coping. 

He was about 16 years old when George Washington (sometime around 1744) transcribed “Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour In Company and Conversation.” Funny how many of the 110 rules still apply, like “think before you speak,” and “labour to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called Conscience.”  Check into "The Exercise of a Schoolboy."

Know a polite, well-mannered, really super kid?  Then print out our free Junior RudeBuster award!

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