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For your consideration:  "Angry All the Time:  An Emergency Guide to Anger Control," by Ron Potter-Efron


For children: "Hot Stuff to Help Kids Chill out: The Anger Management Book," by Jerry Wilde


Rudeness is contagious, but so is 
a smile!






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Anger management, tempers, aggression, hostility, violence, taking control, signs of anger, tips for releasing anger, how relationships (and kids) are affected, help for parents and teachers, teaching tolerance, improving your quality of life by defusing and using anger:

Controlling anger before it controls you can mean the difference between a mere annoyance or full-fledged rage. This site covers anger issues: What is anger? A self help site to understanding why and how anger can be a dangerous force.   

Feel like kids, parents, teachers, bosses, neighbors, anyone is pushing your buttons? Here are ten tips to help you keep your composure when different points of view take on a life of their own.

Did you know aggression could be genetic or hormonal? This Psychological Self-Help link offers plenty of guidance on tempers, jealousy, signs of anger, how and why aggression develops, dealing with violence, parent-teenager conflicts, how to cope with anger and frustration.

The mechanics of anger, how it occurs, what is represents, how we set ourselves up to become angry, giving ourselves a hard time -- there's a lot going on.  It could be the "Shoulds", or "Mind Reading", or "Self Criticism", and even "Collecting Straws." Don't suppress or deny the feeling, understand and handle anger.

This conflict resolution and anger management site discusses ways to understand and walk away from conflict. Good advice for  partners, parents, teachers, caregivers, teens, anyone affected by this very strong emotion called anger.

"Why do I get so Angry?" Well, since all of society is boiling over with rage, you're not alone in feeling or expressing anger.  Here's some insight as to what's going on around us, chronic sources of anger, how anger and anxiety go together and what to do about it.

For men with mates, Anger Busters offers advice on better communications and the ABC's of effective anger management to stop destructive behavior, learn forgiveness and tolerance, and save a marriage.  There's also help for wives dealing with rageful and violent men: how to "know when to hold and when to fold" -- what kind of mate to stick with and when to "ditch that jerk."  

Two people are in the same situation and one becomes angry, the other doesn't.  Why?  What can you do when you're angry?  Find out at

Are we paranoid, suspicious, with a growing propensity for violence? See what Psychology Today says about adults out of control.    

Here's more evidence that releasing anger and conflict resolution can improve your emotional and physical health. Information is power, so here are five free tips to help you release anger.

ABCNEWS's Working Wounded feature offers us some tips on holding our tongues: how to
keep your cool with a difficult caller who's hot under the collar -- tools of the trade that we could all use with rude people on the phone. 
Anger, violence, hate and intolerance
are part of today's human condition with hate crimes and hate groups part of the American landscape.  But one person, acting from conscience and love, can help neutralize hate -- and teaching tolerance is the first step. Here are 101 tools for tolerance.

Ask yourself if the quality of your life would improve if you and your kids used anger in safe, acceptable ways. The answer would be "yes", and you can learn positive things to do with your anger.  So instead of blowing up, hurting others and yourself, you could feel better, be happier in relationships and "get your angries out."

For help with anger in children and solving conflict in a positive way, some great insight, encouragement and suggestions from Iowa State University's Family Life Extension Specialist, Lesia Oesterreich -- from what happens when kids get angry, to fighting in front of the kids, "helping kids cope with anger" is an invaluable resource.

If your child has trouble socializing with other kids, Scholastic's child expert Peggy Schmidt can help with practical advice on conflict resolution, how to teach your child to listen, to apologize, to be successful in social interactions with others.

Sure, they're YOUR kids, but they can still drive you crazy.  To help disarm conflicts, here are 7 tips for getting along better with your kids from educator, psychologist and author Dr. James Sutton.

If you put anger in perspective, it can be a productive emotion.  Here are some tips on learning from your anger, and even how to make anger work for you.       

The most important time to not blow your stack is when the other person has lost their temper. This is especially true for successful managers who keep their cool and have nothing to regret or apologize for.

"Anger is the result of the importance and meaning placed on an event.  No one can make us angry," say the experts, it's how we interpret what someone says, how we see things.  Here's how to get a handle on anger.  

Why be in conflict with someone when you can hit the snooze button on the anger alarm! And there's more here on how to "utilize anger" to your advantage. Makes a lot of sense.

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